Nocturnal enuresis (Bed wetting)

What is enuresis?

Enuresis is the medical term for bedwetting. Up to the age of five, bedwetting is a normal occurrence due to the fact that the child may not yet have obtained full bladder control. However, enuresis which persists later in childhood and even into adult hood may require further investigation.

In most cases, bedwetting does not have a medical cause and 90% of cases are caused by psychological or unknown reasons. Nevertheless, enuresis can have a significant mental impact causing a great deal of embarrassment and stress particularly in adults and older children. Whilst bedwetting is generally thought of as a childhood problem, it can occur in people of all ages and both sexes.

Bedwetting in children

It is extremely common for children to wet the bed in the night, and most children will have grown out of bedwetting by around the age of 10. Occasional accidents are very common amongst children of all ages, with enuresis only being considered regular if it occurs on at least two occasions each week.

It is important to stress that wetting the bed poses no threat to a child’s physical health, although it may have an impact on their confidence and self-esteem.

In many cases, bedwetting is the result of a simple delay in achieving full bladder control. Occasionally nocturnal enuresis will persist into the teenage years, most often in boys. It is important not to punish or humiliate a child who wets the bed as this can exacerbate the problem. Reassure the child that this is an extremely common problem and that there is no need for embarrassment.

Interestingly, research has found that bed wetting often runs in families and it is not uncommon for siblings to share the same problem. In many cases, a parent will also have a history of bedwetting in their formative years. Secondary nocturnal enuresis is the term used when a child who has previously been dry for several months suddenly starts to wet the bed.

The most common reason for this is some kind of psychological stress for example bullying or family problems. If your child suddenly begins to wet the bed when they had previously been dry, some gentle questioning may reveal a hitherto undisclosed concern or issue. Paradoxically, secondary nocturnal enuresis can also occur when the child feels under pressure not to wet the bed.

Bedwetting in adults

Bed wetting in adults occurs in around 2 % of the population and mainly affects males. As in children, stress and anxiety can significantly contribute to the problem.

Other causes include bladder infections, problems with muscle and nerve control, excess intake of coffee or other diuretics late at night, diabetes, prostate problems, sleep apnoea or medications such as sleeping tablets which may deaden some of the signals that generally wake us when we need to urinate.

Excess alcohol can also cause such a sound sleep that the sleeper does not recognise the need to urinate. Occasional bed wetting does not generally signify a problem but when it starts suddenly or occurs regularly, it is best to seek medical advice as it may reveal an underlying medical problem.

One common scenario in adults is a when the sleeper dreams that they are urinating and they wake to find they have urinated in the bed. This type of bedwetting is not generally associated with any medical problem and may be down to a disturbance in REM sleep.

Treatment for enuresis

In children, enuresis is generally short lived and often does not require any special treatment other than reassurance. However, there are options for treating bed wetting should it become a problem. Simple measures such as restricting fluids prior to bed time and ensuring the bladder is fully empty before sleep can be an effective first step.

A moisture sensitive bed wetting alarm is effective in up to 75% of patients, sounding a warning buzzer or alarm the moment the user starts to urinate.

In more severe cases medication such as Darifenacin can be prescribed which works by decreasing the acetylcholine receptors which control the desire to urinate. I

n children, a drug called Desmopressin which reduces the amount of urine produced can be very helpful. Whilst, enuresis can be an embarrassing and distressing condition, there are many effective treatments for it, and your doctor will be able to advise you on the best course of action.

77 thoughts on “Nocturnal enuresis (Bed wetting)”

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  3. Only time I wets the bed when my ex boyfriend yells at me. It started after 4yrs of our relationship he beats and yells at me. We dated for 13yrs. I finally stop wetting the bed after we broke up. Start dating someone else and a year went by no bed wetting, until I ran into my ex we started sneaking around with each other and once again the fighting and yelling start again and once again I start wetting the bed but this time I almost did it with my current boyfriend but he woke me up in time cause he said I was tossing and turning like I was fighting with someone but I made it to the bathroom in time. I’m starting to believe I don’t need to be messing around with my ex anymore. That wasn’t the first time my boyfriend than woke me up cause of my nightmares he say and he wakes me up before I went myself.

  4. I can’t find anything that’s really helpful it happened literally once! I dreamed I was peeing woke up like instantly I stopped it and started to walk to the bathroom when it started again I thought “woah wtf am I pregnant, cause this was just like when my water broke” but nope I got to the bathroom and released a lot and I mean A LOT of urine… idk if I should be concerned about this or not….

  5. I am 62 years old and I have been having bedwetting issues most of my life. When I was younger, it happened if I drink too much alcohol but now. It usually happens when I dream I am on the toilet or searching for a toilet. I am supposed to wake up at that time but I don’t. Once I start using the toilet, and it seems as though I can’t stop in my dream. Once the toilet starts to overflow, I am already starting to go for real. I jump up to go to the bathroom. Sometimes I make it and sometimes I have started going in the bed. My husband is very understanding but I am embarrassed. I usually have that dream when I am stressed but not all of the time. I really need help.

  6. Am so embarrassed about my present situation right now because am so afraid associating myself with people. Am 23yrs old and still bed-wet, I have tried several means to stop bed-wetting but to no avail. It mostly comes with dreams or when am very cold, please i need help urgently.

  7. I been having this problem as long as I can remember but now its different I’m having dreams I’m going and I get up the bed is wet my girlfriend said she ok with it but I feel like she is just saying that to make me not feel bad but I hurts me everytime it’s not all the time it happens maybe once every 3or4 months and idk what to do I dont drink before bed and it still happens I tried so many different things and nothing is working this is so embarrassing like idk what to do this is very upsetting like I feel like I can even sleep over because I’m afraid of this happening this is ruining my life I need help

  8. I too had a dream where I had to go into the men’s room to pee, strangely enough, I’m not a man….. Which really threw me off. Anyways, I did get to go finish peeing.

  9. I have had bed wetting problems since childhood and they have gotten worse in past years,at 38 years old what used to be once a month now is nearly every night and I have tried everything! I have come to conclude that a diaper at night is the only solution. Most all morning’s I wake with the diaper soaked and no knowledge of it happening but at least it isn’t the bed soaked.. this has ruined my relationships and seems no woman will understand. I wish people were more compassionate

  10. I’ve been wetting the bed since I was a little girl and every doctor I go to they tell me it’s a UTI and prescribe me the same over the counter AZO medication. Growing up it’s been on and off but this past month it’s been every night. It’s really embarrassing and its making me extremely depressed. I even stopped sleeping over at my boyfriend’s because of it even though he says it doesn’t bother him. I’ve tried everything. I completely cut out caffeine and alcohol, I limited my water intake to one 16floz bottle a day, I have alarms set every 3 hours throughout the night to wake me up to urinate and I still wake up drenched. I’ve looked up medications for bed wetting and ask my doctors to prescribe it to me so I can at least try it but since I’m not a diabetic they won’t give it to me.

  11. And here I thought I was the only one with this problem. I’m fifty three today, I’ve had a problem peeing the bed for five or so years now. I’ve had the pee dreams,and every other situation. I have to wear a diaper at night which is so freaking ridiculous. I am happy that I’m not in a relationship or married. As long as I have this issue I will never be in a relationship it would be way too embarrassing. Just glad to know I’m not the only one out there with this issue, I wish you all the best who have commented.

  12. I’m glad I’m the only one , I’m 18 and I have this problem not often but every couple of months and it’s really embarrassing because I sleep with my boyfriend and he doesn’t know and I won’t tell him , I have dreams that I am about to pee somewhere and In my dream I try to slap myself to see if I’m not dreaming and when I think I am not dreaming and let it out and I wake up and end up getting the bed wet

  13. I am 44 years old and I have been having bedwetting issues most of my life. When I was younger, it happened if I drink too much alcohol but now. It usually happens when I dream I am on the toilet or searching for a toilet. I am supposed to wake up at that time but I don’t. Once I start using the toilet, and it seems as though I can’t stop in my dream. Once the toilet starts to overflow, I am already starting to go for real. I jump up to go to the bathroom. Sometimes I make it and sometimes I have started going in the bed. My husband is very understanding but I am embarrassed. I usually have that dream when I am stressed but not all of the time. I really need help.

  14. I’m 22 and I’ve had this issue since a I was a kid. I grew up in an abusive house where I saw my parrents use violence often. When I turned 18 my parrents got separated and I became a little more independent, wtting the bed stopped ocurring as often. Now a day it rarely happens but when it does it is very frustrating. It usually happens when I drink water before sleeping and the temperature of my room is too cold. Depending on how much water I drank I could wake up in a wet bed or with wet pants while holding my pee. This has made me grow up with low self esteem. My psychologist told me that dealing with eneuresis for so long and never being able to stop it has contributed in my believe that I’m not able to accomplish my goals and therefore I tend to not be constant and give up fast.

    To everyone dealing with this problem just wanted to tell you that you’re not alone and that having this doesn’t make you less deserving of what you want in life than others.

  15. When I was about 7 months pregnant I had a dream that I was peeing and it was so fulfilling but when I woke up the bed was soaked. Now 4 months after my baby is born it happened again. I am so embarrassed. I have no idea what my husband is going to think.i have had trouble with wetting the bed into my early teens and suddenly it just came back.

  16. So frustrated! I am 53 years old, I am so relieved to see that I am not the only person with this problem. I thought I was going crazy! I would have these dreams that I was running around looking for a bathroom and when I found one I would sit down go to use the bathroom and it felt like the toilet was overflowing but what was really happening was that I was urinating in bed and on myself. I just bought this mattress that I’m using now and it looks like I’m gonna have to replace it but I need to find help somewhere. I tried to talk to my doctor about it. But she’s just not listening! I’m gonna pray and look for some other options. But I do feel better after seeing that I am not alone! God bless us all!

  17. I’m 22 and still wet myself when I’m asleep, normally when I’m really tired after a late shift at work. Quite often it’s that weewee dream other people have mentioned, I dream I need to go, and then find somewhere to do it. And when I wake up I’ve done it in the bed. So anyone else who does this just remember you’re not the only one.

  18. I’m 26years but I have a problem of peeing in the bed just once in a month or after two months, give me feedback, I really want to stop it completely

  19. Am 29 I also having a problem of bed wet it’s happening at night ,it’s comes in the dream

  20. Please i really need help of bed wet it is embarrassing me in my life please help me

  21. I been having this problem for 5 years now I dream peeing and when I woke up I felt that I bedwetting twice a month please help me

  22. I’m 41 years old and I don’t know what my wife thinks everytime I wet the bed. The recent that it happened was I wet a lot that my upper body is also soaking wet when I jumped up of bed surprised! I was dreaming I was from work hurrying to get home. And when I was home I went straight to the toilet to urinate. I was urinating like it was real only to find out I was sound asleep in bed urinating! I woke up soaking wet up to my upper body. I had no choice but to wake up also my wife because she’ll find out anyway, and also to help me dry things up. I’m felt so embarrassed to her. I also wet the bed before but not a lot like this recently. And it’s a long time since the last time, like it was more than a year ago. I don’t know what to do. But I’m a bit relieved that it’s just not me that have this kind of problem. God bless us all with this kind of condition.

  23. Been waking up wet or peeing after a wetting dream for a few years now. I started wearing a diaper and most nights I don’t even wake up anymore. It’s an inconvenience but it’s really not that big of a deal.

  24. I’m 49 and I used to wet bed more than once at night with and without the dream until I had my first child at 22 yrs old. After that it would happen once in awhile. For a few years it hadn’t happened and now it’s happening more than once month. Seems like doctors don’t know how to treat this. I thought I was weard. Reading all this comments made me believe I’m not weard. I grew up with a grandma and uncle who used to beat me every morning and sometimes wake me beating me because of this. I now have a 5 yrs old daughter with the same problem and I just don’t give her liquid at night and I sometimes take her to pee when sleeping so she can be dry most nights. I don’t want her to have low self esteem because of this. I know I grew up with low self steem because of bed wetting. I usually don’t comment, but reading here has helped me in knowing I am not alone and I’m not weird. Many people my have this, just like me are affraid to comment. My husband knows about this, i still manage to hide it most of the times. Need help

  25. Bedwetting can be related to sleeping too deeply. I learned this after wetting the bed all through childhood and into my early teens. There was a company called Pacific International (now out of business) that used the sleep alarm with a very involved program. Sometimes the person who wets can sleep so deeply that they will actually sleep through the alarm (or like the going to the bathroom dream, the alarm is incorporated into a dream as some other loud noise.) Because of this, the PI program required that someone get up with the person who wets and wipe off their face with a cloth dipped in cold water. I was told that sleep walking is a related sleep issue. Anyway, you could only sleep in your PJ tops so that the alarm would sound as soon as the first drop hit it. I remember that I also had to write letters to a person at PI. I had hoped to volunteer there doing the same for others, but the founder died and the company no longer exists. Sleep alarms alone don’t work. My parents had tried one from another place before they hired Pacific International. There is nothing physically or mentally wrong with most people who wet the bed. When I mention my research, so many adults will confide in me that they don’t drink liquids at night to avoid an incident. I have been “dry” for decades and I drink water right before bed every night. Rest in peace, Eugene B. Draper.

  26. This makes me feel so much better knowing that there are other adults dealing with this same issue. I’ve been a bed wetter since a very young age. I’m now 20 years old in a serious relationship and it can be quite embarrassing when it happens. It makes me feel disgusting.

    I had to explain this issue to my partner once we moved in together. Luckily he was understanding. Sometimes I can tell it frustrates him.

    I’ve been wanting to get treated for it because it also stops me from spending the night with friends. This has been something that has affected me all throughout elementary, middle, and high school. I was afraid of going to sleepovers as children and teenagers can be very cruel. I hope that my boyfriend doesn’t get fed up with it,I’m afraid I’ll lose him. I don’t want this issue to control my life.

  27. I have this issue too and its very frustrating, i don’t know what to do; its more than 4 years since I stopped bed wetting. Am 20 now, and this is the 3rd night am witnessing a bedwet ?‍♂️?‍♂️.
    Am just confused

  28. I’m sixteen and I hv the same problem sometimes I feel ashamed and seems I’m left out, it really hurts, I need help please ??

  29. Every few months I have a dream like I’m going in a toilet but I wake up and I’m soaked in bed. It just happend.i was dreaming of arguing with my girlfriend so I got up to go pee only to jump out of bed in reality. I try to control this,anytime I’m in a toilet i dont recognize or it feels like I’m peeing too long or it feels too good then I jump out of sleep. It dont work everytime but I notice the pee in the dream starts a little bit longer before the actual bedwetting so I have a few seconds to catch it before I start feeling the wetness on my body.i feel like there’s more to this. Kind of a spiritual power that we dont know because mine is always connected to a dream.once I had a dream, fire and dead people everywhere, I survived but for some reason I was peeing on the fire. Only to jump out of bed wet. Another time, I was in the most fancy toilet I ever seeing,I remember it was even rotating, the pee felt so good then I woke up soaked. Do I need help or do i need this dreams to tell me something deeper in my life. Sometimes i feel like it’s a power telling me things. Maybe I need to create something that allows people sleep and bedwet freely because I feel it’s an inner connection more than what it is. I’ll rather have it than not.i just dont want to jump out of bed soaked and my partner disgusted and confused. A few of my past girlfriends knew about it and tried to help. I’m in a new relationship now and she doesn’t know. She’s a germaphobe and I know she will not find it funny.

  30. I am 19years,It just started recently. I dream peeing. It first happened in my boyfriends house, now at home and its really embarrassing. I don’t entirely pee buh i wake up amidst the peeing.

  31. I’m 21 y.o. now. I’ve been wetting the bed ever since I can remember. I would always get yelled at. My mom would walk in the room to find me trying to change my sheets and she would yell “wtf!?! You’re still wetting the bed? You’re to old for this sh*t!” Usually it would occur when I had any dreams that had water in it, like a lake, pool, waterfall, using the toilet, etc. My family and my doctor told me I was “being lazy”. I would cry cause I would tell my parents that I really didn’t know when I was peeing, but they didn’t belive me and told me to “get up before it happens” (yeah, makes complete sense 😐 ). Now a days it still happens, just once in a blue moon. It actually just happened tonight thats why I’m commenting, lol! (Probably cause I drank to much) But moral of the story is, if you’re a parent and your child wets the bed, please believe what they’re saying, or else you’ll f up their confidence and self-esteem like my parents did. They’re not lazy, they’re human.

    Stay strong,

  32. I cannot believe this is a real thing!!! I am 42 and a mother of 3 teenagers and I’ve wet the bed three times in the last two months.I sleep on a very expensive foam mattress that I now have to replace. I was not a child bed wetter so this is really freaking me out. My wetting stems from similar dreams of going to the bathroom and in each dream I literally pee like I’m actually on the toilet. I started dating someone new last year after being single for years and for this reason I will not have him spend the night. if anyone has a solution please post it I am desperate to find a solution!!!

  33. Am 22 years, i recently stopped bed wetting, bedwetting comes from your mind, once you control your mind, it will stop, before you sleep just tell yourself that am not going to wet my bed, dont sleep with the fear that what if i wet my bed, no, just lray and sleep, you will thank me later?

  34. For the first time in a long time I wet the bed i didnt wee during the night it was in the morning before i woke up i dreamt that i was using the toilet and to be honest it felt really good like it was the best wee I have ad in years lol but in my dream I was high on cocane ive never taken the drug in my life but in my dream I did and the ski was so bright and beautiful like it was shining on me if thats not a trip I dont no what is lol I just hope this was the first and last time this ever happens im 37 and was quite embarrassed to wake up next to my patner shocking wet so I hope this was a one time thing

  35. I’m 23 and I have this issue but it only happens when I dream about needing to use the restroom. Almost every time i fall asleep I have R.E.M. sleep and I dream every time i fall asleep. Whenever I’m dreaming about needing to pee or going to the restroom I’m not able to tell that I’m actually dreaming and i wet the bed… i just wish I didn’t dream as much and that they weren’t to vivid and realistic. I’m a competitive runner and this dream was literally about me getting ready to run a race like a 5k and i went to a port a potty to use the restroom and bam i wake up to a wet bed.. so annoying.

  36. I would like to say thanks to you all. For posting and sharing your experiences, making a effort and also including yourselves and the the readers into a understandable human thing condition, we go thru this… and get to now this happens to more people then we expected, with relatable and alike conditions many times. Lets keep seeking for better into us. We all can.

  37. I wet the bed as an adult a few times . I have very vivid dreams . I usually have to go pee In my dream world and wake up to the warm stream of urine soaking my bed. Obviously, I open my eyes and jump out of bed pissed.

    I promise I’ll wake up this time lol

  38. I’m 38 and I wet the bed a few months ago . Hahaha . I have very vivid dreams . I usually have to go pee In my dream world and wake up to the warm stream of urine soaking my bed. Obviously, I open my eyes and jump out of bed pissed.

    I promise I’ll wake up this time lol

  39. I’m 38 and I wet the bed a few months ago . Hahaha . I have very vivid dreams . I usually have to go pee In my dream world and wake up to the warm stream of urine soaking my bed. Obviously, I open my eyes and jump out of bed pissed.

    I promise I’ll wake up this time lol

  40. I’m 22 myself n that shit just happened this morning I dreamed I was actually in the bathroom peeing but I wake up I find out I peed in the damn bed make it stop??????THEN I had a coffee mocha last night??????

  41. Hey i’m 23 i wet the bed from since i small i stop wetting the bed ah lil bit once i grew older but it does mostly happen now when i dream i am using the toilet i never went a year in my whole life without wetting the bed it’s very annoying

  42. I have the same problem since I was young now am almost 22 I still have the same problem it is so annoying, it makes me feels bad it happens when ever I had a dream of using the toilet and I find myself peeing on the bed most of the times I don’t sleep till it almost morning because of the fear in my mind and when I sleep with the little time left I still have same problem. I pray it stop soon

  43. Iam 22 years my girlfriend is 20 and last night I woke up in the middle of the night just to find that she wet the bed I was calm about it and asked her if she does that often and she says it happens only once in a while I guess now I’ll have to wake her up everyday in the middle of the night to tell her to go urinate
    And have to tell her to cut alcohol because we had a little to drink last night

  44. I have to set an alarm for 2.45am because my dream pee is always between 3.30-4am. I get up and pee whether I need it or not and go back to sleep until 5.30am. Its a lot better than waking up soaked in urine. I suppose I should see the doctor because I’ve had abdominal pain for 6 months and the dream peeing only started 3 months ago, it got to almost nightly until I started setting my alarm

  45. I’ve had bedwetting issues almost all my life. It happened yesterday again and I was so embarrassed. But by closely observing the patterns, it has eased out.

    I try not to consume too much liquid close to night time. I notice that when I dream I’m peeing, almost 100% of the time I wake up peeing on the bed.

    So by avoiding too much liquid, I usually won’t have the need to pee in my sleep.

    I think we can all get better by taking deep breaths and trying to observe the patterns, work through it again and again until it’s down to the barest minimum.

    We can seek medical and professional help too.

    Thank you everyone.

  46. I’m 28 and this morning was the first time I wet the bed since I was 10. I was dreaming of peeing in a urinal and woke up while I was wetting the bed. Even I was by my self I was embarrassed. But reading comments it’s seem to be normal for this to happen and seem to start about 26-28

  47. I am 35 years old and recently started having this issue. I dream I am in the bathroom then wet the bed. It says it’s more common in males but I am a female so idk what is wrong

  48. It is so good to know I am not alone. I thought I was the only one. I have had this problem my whole life and I am now in my 40’s. It has always involved my dream world. I get to a place that is so deep, usually dreams within dreams. And then there is a bathroom involved or sometimes just water, like I am floating in the sea or something. Anyways, for a time, as an adult, for 15 years or so I learned to tell I was dreaming and wake up before the real pee started coming. But lately my dreams have become very detailed and layered and even seem to try and trick me. I would swear I am not dreaming. I feel too that it is something more. Idk like we are tuning in to some other dimension or something. Maybe we are waking up, like a glitch in the matrix. Lol well idk I just know it’s crazy, and I have always hid it as an adult and never told anyone. It definitely effects your life and self esteem. Hang in there. Get a mattress protector. I wish everyone the best.

  49. My siblings all had problems with wetting the bed when they were older kids but even when I was little I never really wet the bed. I remember once when I was maybe 6 I dreamt that I was at a theme park and I went to the bathroom, I realised that I was peeing in my bed and went to my mum crying. I am now 15 and this morning at like 7:50 I dreamt I went to the bathroom however this time I instantly realised and stopped before i fully peed. I went to the bathroom and changed my sheets. Does anyone know why I haven’t done it in like 10 years then just randomly one night I do it again?

  50. It’s nice to know other people deal with this issue as well. I used to wet the bed as a kid until I was about 12 and I’m 21 now and just did tonight. I got real bad anxiety and felt shameful this happened since I am older now and haven’t done this in a long time. Seeing everyone else’s comments is helping just to know I am not the only one. I had a dream about myself using the bathroom and it felt fake at first but then more real until I woke up and immediately changed the sheets lol luckily I wasn’t in the same bed as my SO. I would be so embarrassed…

  51. Hello, all. It’s so fantastic to know I’m not the only person who does this I’m 50 in 2 weeks. As a child it happped alot. This morning was the first time in a few years. And l didn’t wake up till my bed was wet went l awake up from dreaming of being pn the toilet. To late.

  52. So iv just had the lovely toilet dream. Am 30 and its happened to me ever since I was little. Now its not as often but with doctors help and keeping a dairy of my day and feeling we worked out its when am stressed/ nervous or have something on my mind and worried. Its my trigger when this happen i know its bad, Hope this may help some of you.

  53. I’ve been wetting the bed for a few years now. I dream that I’m peeing, and wake up to find that I, in fact, have peed. It’s embarrassing and frustrating. But I’m glad to hear that I’m not alone.

  54. This has been happening so often i am now paranoid when I go pee when I’m awake that I may be in a dream. I usually wake myself up because I realize I am dreaming but usually it’s too late and at least a little has come out. I know we’re all stressed out right now but this is almost a nightly occurrence and I’m having trouble sleeping, higher anxiety and paranoia. I don’t know what to do, I cant go see anyone with everything going on. Frustrating and scary. I need help.

  55. I’m male, 37 and I’ve wet the bed a couple of times during last 5 years. I peed while dreaming. All the dreams included either water or peeing. Just happened last night but I woke up in time and it was just wetting my pants not the bed. Most of the times, I’m able to wake up and go to the bathroom but it’s harder when I consume a lot of water before bed AND have very deep sleep that night.

  56. I was a bit relieved to see the explanation that in adults rare bedwetting due to dreams could just be an REM sleep disturbance rather than a physical issue. As far as I understand it true or regular “full” bedwetters wet during a deep non-REM sleep where they typically don’t remember dreaming they were peeing. This matches the last time I had a full accident at age 8. I remember no dream but woke up soaked, since in those days I would sleep through the whole night and have an “epic” pee in the morning lasting a minute. So that amount translated to soaking me not literally from head to toe, but closer to wetting my pajamas from my chest down to my knees. It was awful.

    But since then I’ve only had “partial” accidents once or twice a year, sometimes not at all. In all cases I dream I start to pee but then suddenly wake up by reflex and automatically stop after what couldn’t be more than 1 or 2 seconds of peeing. I feel lucky that I stop, but it still wets my underwear and pajamas a little bit so need to change, but if I was on my back I don’t need to change the sheets. But I don’t know why this happens because I have also had dreams where I pee completely and it feels real, and I wake up afraid it happened for real but I am dry. So my body somehow knows when it is really happening and wakes me up. What doesn’t make sense is how easily I stop. I mean, if I had to go, I should have a full bladder or at least half full. But when I wake up there is no urge to go, no desperate holding it in so I don’t wet even more. So I don’t understand why it starts in the first place. If I did have a full bladder, then stopping after a second would seem very difficult, as anyone who tries to stop a urine flow consciously as soon as you get it going understands. So what is going on with the plumbing is a bit confusing, and how my sleeping brain is able to control it…. almost. Any ideas what is going on?

  57. Im 21 this has been happening since I was little. Sometimes I would be able to catch myself before it got to much. Sometimes I would wake up the next morning completely soaked from my chest down to my calves ? when I was little my mom took me to a hypno doctor because she was tired of coming into my room to find that I had wet the bed again. It worked for a couple weeks before I started to do again and she was pissed ? she had said it’s because “I’m lazy” and didn’t want to get up but actually I was deep sleeper. A couple of times in middle school if she would take me to school would yell at me and say “nobody’s ever gonna want you over their house if you keep doing this” “you’re lazy and need to wake up before it happens” and ever since then I’ve always told myself that you’re not going have friends or SOs because of this, you’re such a fuck up that you cant even wake up to go to the bathroom. I even thought about suicide a couple times as I grew up. You know cause everyone I knew (family or friends) hated my problem I would always tell myself you need to leave everyone’s life would be good without you in it ? and its so fucked up cause no one realized what their words really meant to me. Fast forward to now I’m in a serious relationship with my girlfriend and last night I had fell asleep on her couch and woke up to find that I had a accident again so since this has happened before and I know she hates when it happens on her furniture I instantly say to myself “wtf god damn it she’s going to leave you if you dont get this shit figured out” so I do all the things I usually would when I do have a accident then I texted her because she was sleep and I didn’t want to wake her and told her I’m sorry and that if she wants me to leave that I would understand. So morning comes and she asked where is my couch cushion I say outside on the patio she then starts to mumble something about the situation and then proceeds to say I can ruin my mom’s furniture but she’s not going to let me ruin her’s. I lowkey feel like she’s going to leave me because we been together for four years now but ??‍♂️.

  58. Im 36 and this just happened to me. Its the first time in a long time that it has, but its more embarrassing because it happened at my GF’s house in her bed. Luckily she was already already gone by the time it happened, so I was able to act as though I just wanted to get a jump start on cleaning and doing laundry
    Seeing everybody else’s comments does honestly make me feel better knowing I’m not alone out here, but it still doesnt take the embarrassment away fully

  59. I’m 48, female and never had issues with nocturia as a child. However, since being diagnosed with severe sleep apnea, the nocturia has arisen. It’s disgusting, ridiculous and makes me angrier than hell! As if sleep apnea wasn’t bad enough! The only solution I’ve found is to get used to a CPAP and lose weight. 🙁

  60. I came on this page because I was concerned.. it is 4am and I was dreaming about going to the toilet and woke up to realise I had actually wet the bed. WTF!? I’m 35 and it has never happened before in my adult life. I am too embarrassed to tell anyone I know.
    I did have water before going to bed and slept earlier than usual. I am also stressed and worried right now because I have family issues.
    I also have rain sounds playing when I sleep. Unsure if this all played a role in the random bed wetting.

  61. Im glad to see that I dont have this problem alone; especially in adults.

    I have been peeing the bed since I was little; the earliest memory I had of this was when I was about 6 years old. I remember when I first peed, my mom would tell me what to do and it’s normal. But then sometimes back then I would pee about 2 times a week in bed and regularly about 2-3 times per month. I remember when I was a child in my WORST I would pee the bed in the evening and after a couple of hours after going back to bed I would pee again. My mom, being understanding at first would then become upset and scold me because she was getting frustrated of washing the beddings so often. It was awful.

    I thought I would grow out of bedwetting. When I was in gradeschool I really want to join the girlscouts and camping trips with my friends and classmates but my mom would tell me not to go. And ofcourse I wouldnt because if I pee the bed while away from home, I would get picked on and be humiliated. I became a teenager hoping to outgrow it but I never did.

    Even now at 26 years old and married, I would still wet the bed every now and then. Good thing my husband understands my problem and doesnt care about it, but but it’s so frustrating because I cant control it. It’s so humiliating. The main reason why I would do it was when I’m deep in sleep and having VERY vivid dreams. I would dream I would pee and it looks and feels TOO REALISTIC, only to be woken up that my lower half is soaked. Sometimes I would jolt up almost peeing from another dream that I was peeing. But sometimes I would just have a deep sleep and wake up the next day soaked without even dreaming anything. I would stop wetting the bed for a couple of months—my longest record without peeing the bed would be about 4-5 months, but once I start getting my hopes up that maybe—just maybe—- I would finally stop bedwetting, I would find my pajamas soaked with pee when I wake up. I’m at my wits end.

    I dont know how much more this would go on. Maybe until I die. Sometimes I would blame my mom because they said it was a result of being scolded too often as a kid who wet the bed too often and subconsciously my mind was impacted by it. Or maybe I have poor bladder control or even a semi-incontinent bladder. Maybe my bladder’s too small. Who knows.

  62. I don’t recall ever wetting the bed when I was younger. I’m 46 now and I’ve wet the bed three times in the last week. I’m pleased that I’m not the only one suffering but I don’t know what to do about it, I’m a bit embarrassed to see a doctor.

  63. I’m 20 and really embarrassed because I’ve just wet my bed for the second time in a week.
    I used to be a bedwetter as a child all the way up to when I was 16 and then it stopped which was really great. When I was 17 I had it once and also once when I was 18. I told myself that when I had two whole years of staying dry I could ditch the waterproof sheet. So those two years went and I started to sleep like a grown up without the protector.
    Big mistake! 3 months in I had the dream of using the toilet and I woke up with wet pyjamas, wet sheet and worst of all a wet mattress. So luckily I still had the plastic sheet so back on it went!
    And it’s a good thing it did because 5 nights later the same dream happened. At least this time I don’t have the mattress wet.
    Does anybody know why this happens, like staying dry over two years and then wetting twice in a week? And has it happened to anyone else like me who used to be a bedwetter and then stopped.

  64. I’m 19 and I literally wet the freaking bed last night while having a dream where I was peeing!?! This has never happened before and I’m kinda concerned. I never really wet the bed as a child, why now!?!?? Lucked out tho, could have been in someone else’s bed….LOL. How flipping embarrassing.

  65. I’m a 25 year old male. In the last year I wet the bed twice and in both instances, I was dreaming about something related to water. I haven’t wet the bed since I was a kid so it’s weird. I work graveyard shifts and I have a lot of trouble getting decent sleep, so the “disturbance in rem sleep” makes sense

  66. Glad to know I’m not alone… happened a few years ago, and now 3 times over the last several weeks. ALWAYS I dream I’m using the bathroom. Even in the dream I look around to make sure I’m not dreaming before I start to pee. When I’m convinced I’m awake, I go. It’s humiliating. All three times I have snuck out of bed to grab a towel and soak up everything I can without my wife noticing, then I find a reason to wash the sheets when we’re doing the laundry… I’m so embarrassed I don’t even tell my WIFE about it. At least, not these more recent occurrences. Could it be related to sleep apnea? Or just snoring? I know I snore, might have a little apnea as well. At this point I get nervous when I’m actually awake and peeing in the toilet – like I’m going to wake up again, soaked. This just plain sucks…

  67. This is so embarrassing and I am too ashamed of myself to stand b4 a full grown up like me and confess I bedwet at 34 and it’s right from childhood.?

    Though not often. At times, it might not be more than 5 times a year. At times, it might be consecutively for 3 days and probably that’s all for the year. I doubt if it’s a medical condition as 98% of most times the shit happens, I’d dream I am using the toilet. And immediately I am done peeing in my dream, I wake up to the reality of a wet bed.

    I have tried all manners of things to stop this, but they seem not to be working. Including setting periodic alarm, eating and drinking less once it’s 7pm. Whenever this shit wanna happens, it doesn’t give a damn of my preventive measures.

    This is embarrassing. For how long will this shit happen? Hope it’s not a spiritual or supernatural influence or spell? How do I explain this to my wife when I eventually get married. As this has scared me away from walking the aisles.

  68. Glad I’m not alone, I’m 36 this happened at 4 a.m. last night while in bed with my girlfriend. I was so embarrassed and angry at myself for this happening. Girlfriend was really supportive and I’ve been up since 8 a.m. sorting out my mess. Cant shake the embarrassment and feeling of shame.

  69. Hi. Im bed wetting on bed once or twice a month while I dream struggling to pee in the toilet or hidden place. This is disturbing me a lot. It embarrasses me to my boyfriend

  70. I have the same issue here
    Thank God am not alone
    Pls what is the solution to the problem pls ??

  71. I’m so glad and awfully pleased to see that I’m not the only one. I could relate to every single comment made by other users here in one way or another.

    I’m 23 right now, and I was always a bed-wetter in my young days and even near my 18th birthday.

    But the reasons were totally same. I see a fuckin dream on my sleep that I am peeing in a bathroom and only after start peeing, I feel this indescribable feeling kinda like a warning sensation that wakes me up like a spring and I find that my fuckin bathroom was fictional.

    It’s been long time I stopped sleeping with my mom (not for this issue) and I sleep alone now. I can’t say to my fam about this cuz clearly they aren’t aware that it’s not a taboo.

    It’s just me and my occasional bed-cleaning duties at the dawn.

    I HATE this.
    But lemme just say, you’re not alone, nor am I alone.
    Don’t worry.

  72. This happens to me when I have a UTI, I think the discomfort (ladies I’m sure you know the one), makes me dream that I need to pee, and then, I catch myself and wake up really startled. I’m glad it seams to be more common than I originally thought!

  73. Misery loves company and in this case now I don’t feel I’m all alone with this problem.
    I’m 50 and always had vivid dreams and now peeing in them, and in reality, has happened several times in the last year.
    I’ve reached the stage of telling myself in my dreams I’m awake (even though the peeing scenario is unrealistic) and questioning if I’m awake when I really get up to go pee.
    From reading your missives possible solutions-
    Bandaid: diapers, plastic sheet,
    Fix: bed wetting alarm, setting an alarm for just before the event usually occurs and make yourself get up and go, trepanning (kidding)
    Enough stories, more possible solutions please

  74. 28 years old, and extremely embarrassed because this happened maybe twice in 2019,3 times through out 2020 and then just this morning. I always wake up from a deep sleep because of a feeling only to find that I had started to pee in the bed. I’m always extremely embarrassed and try to clean everything up as quietly and as quickly as I can but I still feel ashamed. And it’s always a random and extremely vivid dream where I’m suddenly using the toilet. I have insomnia and normally I’m not able to get myself to sleep until 3am to 4am so definitely have disturbances to REM sleep. It’s just good to know there are other people with this issue.

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